Great Mornings Can Happen!

If you don’t have some sort of direction how will you know when you have arrived? Welcome to the unofficial start of the new year. 

It’s back to school time if you have school aged kids, but even if you don’t, it seems almost that universal “time to get back into a real routine” time of year.

It’s funny to me that January is the official “New Year New You, time to get life in order, I’m going to do things different,” frenzy that floods us December to mid January. When it seems, for most people September is the real start to kicking off the year.

September seems to be the starting point, scheduals start to form, plans are made, and new routines are developed. The holiday’s are over, we hope we are refreshed and ready to dig back into work and school.

Now for some people, the last few weeks of August might have been a reflective time or even a planning time for how to handle the morning rush and get everyone out the door with as few tears and stress as possible. (yes IT IS possible,😂 don’t shake your head at me!!) However some of you might be thinking about those routines right now….

There are ways to help your morning get off to a better brighter start.😍 Yes even if you are not a morning person, or the people you need to get out the door are not morning people, it can be done. 😊

And what if I told you it begins with YOU!

WHAT?

Now hold the phone, yes you read that right. The morning routine will be successful and it begins with you. How is that possible? Little secret…. if you aren’t rushed and impatient it goes a lot better.

How does that work?

Glad you asked…..

5 Fantastic Steps to a Better Morning Routine

1. Set up for Success the Night Before! I said these steps worked I didn’t say they were rocket science. The key to minimizing some of the morning craziness is to get ready what you can the night before. For older kids and teens make this part of their routine. It’s a good life skill. Pick out clothes, pack lunches or at least know what your taking for lunch, have the packpacks together and near the door, including your work bag and your purse or keys if you leave at the same time or whatever your morning activites. Also have shoes, coats etc all together. No one enjoys the race around the house looking for that missing shoe when you have to be out the door 5 minutes ago. Even go as far as having breakfast dishes on the table, and knowing whats for breakfast, the least you have to make decisions on in the morning the happier and less stressed it is.

2. Give yourself plenty of time! Jumping out of bed with 20 minutes before everyone needs to be out of the house, screaming and shoving food in their mouths might seem exciting to some…. says no one ever!! Give this some real thought. We are looking for a better morning routine, and that means TIME. Time to wake up, time to eat, time to shower, time to get things done.

3. Know what Works -Part one. This highlights the YOU, I mentioned earlier. You know you. You know if you are a bright and cheerful, ready to welcome the world as soon as you jump out of bed person, or if you are the I need to ease into this day, and would appreciate if I could do it in silence type of person. Or somewhere in between person. If you are the cheerful person you may not need extra time, or if your kids are older and don’t need your immediate attention you could use this time to slowly welcome the world. However if you are the needing silence to wake up, helpful hint to make your routine the best, wake up a little earlier then everyone else and feed that part of you, enjoy that silence you need so everyone benefits.

4. Know What Works – part 2. So if the above highlights you, this one highlights everyone else. If you have a mixed morning people household, do what can be done to let them wake up the way that is most successful. A cheerfull chatty…. encourage them to chat with you (cause you are ready for the day, see why YOU were first???) and leave those needing more time to slowly wake up in their way. And if you are the household with mostly silent types, breathe and enjoy the peace.

5. Perfection is Impossible! So life was going great, the routine was working beautifully then BAM! You slept in, they slept in, someone forgot to make a lunch, that crazy shoe disappeared right before you needed to leave, the needing to wake up slowly now can’t and is grumpy and you are feeling like you are up for worst parent of the year…… so it happens. The day starts off rocky, but you get out the door mostly on time, but tears do happen. Guess what, life is life and perfection doesn’t always happen perfectly. You still have this, and you are still greatness.

 

“ When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive- to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love.” – Marcus Aurelius

Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.” – Winston Churchhill

Beautiful mornings can happen, and I hope for each of you that they happen many more times going forward.

Until next time, have a wonderful week!

Juanita 💕

A Pause in Time….

Photo credit: smalltown_millennial

 

This momma and baby came to visit us last week. We (my daughter and I) were going about our weekend chores at home, busy and rushing about and I looked out our back door and they were in our back yard. Everything stopped in our house as we both came to the door and just watched as they moved about. They came and went a few times, and they spotted us watching them. It was beautiful and yet a reminder too that we share this place with them.

I think what if I hadn’t looked out the window. I would have missed that small gift and a chance to just stop and take in that beauty. How often in our rush to check off our TO DO list do we miss something that is really worth seeing?

The image of the two deer stayed with me along time, more so because it was just a chance encounter. But that encounter, brought everything to a stand still and we just took it in. It made me more mindful to slow down and see what else I might be so busy doing that I just don’t see what’s passing right in front of me.

Do you find your days flying by? It’s mid August, summer is coming to a close in a few weeks, and I want to ask you, what made you stop this summer? What caught you off guard and had you pause to really enjoy the moment? Or have you been so busy you haven’t really noticed much of anything?

 

Not work time, it’s play time!!
He flew so close to us on a hike, we had to stop and say hello.

 

Pause in your days, take a breath and look around. There is so much to see….

Until next week, have a beautiful day!

When the Guilt Stops….

In growing and becoming a mature person, there might be some area’s that need a little up grade now and then. How is your guilt meter? Do you feel guilty when you take time for you? Some of you are staring blankly at this post and saying “guilt, what guilt? I don’t feel guiltly at all for taking time for me.. “ and that’s awesome. You have reached a level in maturity I aspire too.

For everyone else, guilt in this area, is real and sometimes a hidden or not so hidden battle that rages on inside of us. In air planes when there is an emergency the oxygen masks fall from the ceiling and you are advised to put your own on before you help your children or those around you. I always thought,:

What?? How can this be possible??

They are your babies, you would give your life for them.  However it’s also explained, that if you dont make sure you care for yourself, you can’t care for anyone else. You are no good to anyone if you are dead.

You may have heard phrases in life such as:

  • You can’t pour from an empty cup
  • You can’t give more than you have

How many have you heard? These are not new phrases, but they are some of the hardest to understand, especially in a world that says we can do it all. And if you can’t, someone will make you think “Why not?”

Now I have a masters degree in feeling guilty. It took many years and lots of studying and taking of exams and passing with flying colours. However of my education this is the least I am proud of, it’s not something I proudly hang on my wall or bring out to show to new friends, however it seems to be the one degree that shows up loud and proud, without my help.  And in talking with people it seems many of us went to the same school and we all graduated at the top of our class. How did that work?

Having a long term relationship with feeling guilty about taking care of yourself and taking time for you, is not easy to dismantle. Wait again WHAT???

That’s right, it’s not EASY. Sure I’m going to give you 5 tips on how to start making time for you(and not feel guilt about it) and they themselves are easy (kinda). But if you have ever tried to seporate yourself from something that  refuses to go away, (excess weight, sales people when you signed up for that one free gift, that one newsletter you signed up for and now you get 10 emails a day) just remember it takes time.

Here we go:

Tip 1. Don’t agree  on the Spot. 

That means to anything. Give yourself some breathing room. When you answer in the moment, to a lunch date, a job, a project, a childs imprompt play date, a last minute dinner party, you may and often times will regret it. Then when you look at your already busy schedule and because you have said yes, usually the first to go was those free moments you had for some quiet time. And the guilt meter rises, not to mention it’s pals, the stress meter and the resentment pit. Let the person asking know you need some time to check your schedule, in the end you both will be better off.

Tip 2. Keep that appointment with yourself, it’s Vital. 

I can already hear some of you saying but what if….. and yes, stuff can come up. We live in the real world. However how much of those so called interuptions are really that important?

BUT ____________ (insert name) will be upset if I don’t ________

Stop, need I remind you that if you are to the point of exhaustion or even just really cranky, you are NO GOOD to anyone. So keep your appointment with yourself. You need to breathe, recharge, and do something that you enjoy. Or do nothing and enjoy that, Naps are wonderful too and not just for kids!! It doesn’t have to be for a long time, you are in charge of that too. But you should come back feeling ready to dive into whatever your world looks like again.

Tip 3. Be ok with others not being ok.

You might face some resistance with this taking time for you idea. Now since I’m not talking about leaving your family so you can go off and become a rock star in LA, while a great daydream, not RESPONSIBLE! I’m talking about a few hours a week. Guess what, they will survive. Feel that guilt meter go down? Good. Any change brings resistance at first. It’s proven, most people don’t like change in-the beginning even if it’s great! This is where you might have to stand your ground and take a little heat. Again put the reminder out there, you can’t be at your best, if you have nothing left.

Tip 4. Have a back up

This is more for the mom’s but it’s a good idea to always have a back up plan. Have a second person in the wings for a babysitter just in case life happens. And in general, have another me time plan incase of bad weather, or maybe that coffee shop you wanted to head too is really crowded or closed. Then your time isn’t spent trying to figure out what to do.

Tip 5. Be easy on yourself when things don’t go as planned.

You had the schedule planned, you are ready to walk out the door and a million things went wrong. So you couldn’t possibly leave and now on top of the stress/disappointment you feel, you feel guilty because you know you need to take care of yourself too. STOP! Breathe and know this life you live is day to day, moment to moment. And it’s not perfect. And it’s ok. The schedule is not in stone, life is full of interuptions, but the more we pile on our own guilt the harder it is to break free.

 

I  have in no way mastered all of those tips myself, but I’m a work in progress too. And I’m happy with that.

Enjoy your day, leave a comment below and let me know what you do to enjoy your me time, and I would love to know how you schedule it? Daily, weekly or even every month.

ENJOY YOUR LIFE, IT’S A GIFT