When the Fog happens…..

Sometimes going through a fog and coming out on the otherside keeps you aware that you can fall backwards at anytime. I had this experience this past week. I had a personal time in a fog and lost perspective, lost my way, and felt all alone.

Now, before I go much further, let me say I have a very strong Faith, I have a fantastic family, and a number of friends, but I still fell back into a isolated fog. It happens, even when you think it couldn’t ever happen again. Fortunately I had a beautiful search party sent out to bring me back, in the form of my daughter who would not allow me to just stay lost in the deep dark silence, tears, and dark thoughts.

The experience got me thinking, and had me wanting to make sure I moved forward, and even though its a good reminder I’m still vulnerable at times (as we all are), I won’t stay stuck.

Life can get overwhelming at times, and sometimes we don’t even see the fog getting thicker until we can’t see the road out anymore. So I have some tips to help you make you’re way out, or even not venture down that road at all.

5 Ways to Help Keep Yourself Out of the Fog

1. Find your People: This is highly important! No joke, you are not intended to walk this earth alone. We all need our people, our community, our tribe. No matter what you call it, FIND THEM. They are your trusted people that you can talk to about anything and everything, and here is the kicker, they will love you, support you, and even kick your butt when they need too. (THAT’s IMPORTANT TOO!)

2. Give your People the freedom to come get you:  That might mean they actually need to come get you from some place that is harmfull to you, or it could mean they don’t leave when you say in that tone, “Everything is fine.” Have the conversation in the good times, that they have permission to not let you hide, even when you are so lost you just want the world to leave you alone because the pain is that deep. It’s life saving.

3. PRAY: *** If you are not a God person move on to #4. ***  Now for me, this is first, but thats me. God is ALWAYS listening. I spend a lot of time talking to GOD,  but there is an area I struggle in, I will happily and tearfully pray for anyone and with anyone, but I struggle asking for my people to pray for me and with me. It’s important to again have this in place, even if it’s just the word, PRAY. Let your people know.

4. Take a look at your physical health:  Some of you might be scratching your head at this one, however hear me out. Are you working too hard? Have you been sleeping? Are you eating real food instead of junk food? Have you gotten any exercise lately? Have you stopped to just breathe or has everything be a race to the finish? If you don’t take care of your health, it adds to the stress, the fog, and the dangerous road you are travelling.

5. Seek Help :  If the above steps are not enough, or your fog is getting worse, or just not lifting, seek help. There are hotlines in most area’s that you can talk to professionals who are amazing listeners and can put you in touch with services that can help you. To add to this I want to stress:

YOU MATTER!

YOU ARE LOVED!

YOU ARE IMPORTANT!

This journey of life is full of ups and downs, peaks and valley’s and while we might not enjoy the valley’s we need them to truly love the peaks.  -Unknown.

Keep walking the road, we can’t see what’s around the bend, or what awaits us, but it could be your greatest adventure yet!

Until next time, enjoy your day and whats left of the lazy day’s of summer!

Juanita

Oh Those Less then Perfect Moments

I’m new at this setting up a blog thing, well sort of.  I understand the writing part, and I’m slowly getting the technical part (slowly, very slowly).  And I’m honest about this, the tech side is not my strong side. I love to write, that’s my favorite part.

So small confession, I get frustrated easily with tech things that I can’t figure out. Does anyone else out there understand that feeling???  Anyone at all?

 

I posted this picture on Instagram earlier today, and my daughter  brought up a good point, it looks like I broke my tablet, I assure you I did not, it is simply face down while I have a time out. After reading her comment, I burst out laughing because it really did appear like I broke it.

Now in the past I would have fussed and huffed and puffed and lost my mind.. (shhhhh I didn’t say how long in the past)……. hmmmm ok carrying on..

I can be real, and honestly I can still loose my mind and put myself in a time out. But here’s the encouragment part (ready??) We are human! We get frustrated and how we deal with it, we can grow and change and mature. We don’t have to do what we have always done. And you don’t have to feel guilt and hold it against yourself. Pick yourself up! Forgive yourself and take a deep breathe, take a walk and if need be try again later. If you lost your mind around other people, own it. Say you blew it, Say you’re sorry and do better next time, don’t hide it, don’t shrug it off. Own it, but don’t let it hold you down. We get so wrapped up in not making mistakes, or trying to bluff our way to those around us into hoping theythink we don’t make mistakes, that it makes it harder to say “I messed up”.

Is it easy to admit you messed up? Do you say your sorry or   do you hope you can drop it and it never be talked about again? Leave me comment below and tell me your story.

See, still smiling.

Until next time, 😊